Opportunities fly by while we sit regretting the chances we have lost, and the happiness that comes to us we heed not, because of the happiness that is gone.
~Jerome K. Jerome, The Idle Thoughts of an Idle Fellow, 1889
Whether you're talking about your investments, your view on the economy, or your approach to life in general, your conclusions, actions and results usually hinge on your perspective. I'm often amazed at how different people view the same situation in very different ways. I'm even more amazed by how slight changes in how we look at things can literally change the course and quality of our lives.
Last week I promised to fill you in on what's been happening with our life changes. (If you're not familiar with the background story, take a look at Risk Is Relative.) We bought a home in a new city last week. We've spent a lot of time over the past two months looking at houses and weighing options, but this transaction happened really fast.
We were originally going to move to a very small town about 2½ hours away from here. Gradually, we came to realize that this probably wouldn't suit us as well as we thought. We liked the idea of a simpler life, but couldn't fathom the thought of driving 30 minutes or more to reach major shopping areas. Apparently, we're city slickers at heart.
The home we bought is only about 2 years old. It's pretty nice, but the truth is that we had to act on it so quickly in order to secure it that we didn't have much time to scout out the area. We know that the city is centrally located in Ontario, so that will be great for the new business. Other than that, we're kind of going in blind.
We don't take possession, however, until mid-August (the closing date is actually on our 19th wedding anniversary!) so we'll have plenty of time to investigate. Now we need to concentrate on selling our existing home.
According to Wikipedia, opportunity cost is “the cost of any activity measured in terms of the best alternative forgone.” It's a key concept in economics and investing, but it can also play an important role in just about any life decision. When we decided to move in order to have the opportunity to maximize the potential benefits of my husband's new job, we had to weigh some pretty serious opportunity costs:
- Housing Cost: Our current home is located in an area where housing is relatively inexpensive, whereas our new home is in an area where housing is more costly. Our current home would probably be worth about $175,00 more if it were located in the city to which we're moving. We love our current home, so it definitely hurts, both emotionally and financially to pay more for less in order to make this move.
- Emotional Cost: Because we chose every aspect of our current home and we've lived here longer than any place we've been before, it's really hard to let go. This house is truly home. In addition, we will be leaving the city where both of our parents live. We had hoped to be close by as they age. The boys will be leaving long-time friends and starting at new schools as well.
- Financial Cost: As mentioned above, the new home will cost significantly more than our current home, and we will still have to finish the basement to bring it even close to our current home in terms of space and comfort. Our existing home is almost paid off, and the new home will mean that my mortgage vendetta will be extended. 🙁 This will also have implications for our budgeting and retirement planning as paying off the mortgage was going to accelerate our retirement savings significantly.
Wow. After writing that, I'm starting to wonder if we've made the right choice. But let's look at the potential benefits of the move in terms of the opportunity cost of NOT moving.
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”
Change is at least a little scary for most people. For some – myself included – it can be downright paralyzing. I tend to play it extra-safe, but I'm married to someone who's always pushing me to at least look at the benefits of taking the occasional leap. I'm not afraid to leap either, but I usually like to think about it a lot longer first.
My arguments for staying here are outlined above in the section on the opportunity costs of moving. However, I can also make a pretty good case for the opportunity costs of staying put:
- Financial Cost: If we choose to stay in our current city, the new business would be much more difficult to run. Mr. Cents is responsible for getting a new division of the company off the ground in Ontario. It's essential that we're more centrally located to do that. If we do this right, we could easily make this thing a huge success and benefit from the income that goes with it as well. The new mortgage could then be dispatched very quickly, and our retirement plan, turbo charged.
- Emotional Cost: Aside from the proximity of family and friends, we don't exactly enjoy the city we live in right now. The new city is closer to some of the cultural and intellectual action in Ontario and we think this could be a good thing for our two musically inclined sons. There are plenty of post-secondary opportunities in the area if they choose to go that route. In addition, one of my sisters lives just a half-hour drive away, so our youngest son will get to visit with his cousins (who are closer to his age) a lot more often.
- Lifestyle Cost: We've been so preoccupied with finding a new city/house that we haven't devoted as much time to getting the business off the ground as we'd like. Having said that, Mr. Cents is loving the work so far. This is basically the ideal job we've been hoping for since he left his other position in 2008. We can both work on the business, but I have the freedom to concentrate on home (and Balance Junkie!) as well.
Perception is Nine Tenths of Reality
Every exit is an entrance somewhere else.
Doors are funny. Do they keep stuff out, or keep you in? Is a door an entrance or an exit? It all depends on where you're standing and where you want to be. Do you want in or out? Perception is everything.
Obviously, we have decided, somewhat reluctantly, that we want out of our current life and are hoping that the new life we're entering is to our liking. We understand that there are opportunity costs whether we decide to stay or go, but we're willing to take the chance that the risks outweigh the rewards. We're choosing to risk some opportunity costs to avoid an opportunity lost. There are no guarantees either way, but we think we can make this work for our family.
Do you weigh the opportunity costs when you've got a choice to make? Do you ever find that the prospect of change keeps you from making a choice?
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